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my name is danny valentine, and i’m starting this blog because i enjoy contemplating life, and basically feel i have a better grasp on the subject than most people do. does this make me vain? probably. but lucky for you, i’m fine with that

the douchey nice guy

lmao!  ok…so a “pick-up artist” by the name of paul janka, was recently outed by a woman he dated.  an explanation of his antics can’t hold a candle to the actual quotes.  for a taste of true douchebaggery, check out the video, lol…

here’s my breakdown of his bullshit…i mean…”game”.  what he’s doing is called the “shotgun technique”, and it relies on the law of averages.   guy’s like this will be as upfront as possible, with as many women as possible, to quickly find the 1 out of 100 that will fall for that shit.  i’m willing to bet his invites were sent to 30 other women (or more).  in his eyes, having 99 women hate him for all of eternity is worth the 1 that will actually “take it in the ass”.

now ladies, i’m sure you’re thinking “what an asshole” – and rightly so.  but if you’ve read my post titled: “society loves liars”, you know people aren’t always as they appear.  don’t let the facade fool you; this man is scared of women – much like a crocodile is scared of mankind.  this video of him addressing his students (poor guys), gives us a glimpse into the real paul janka:

this is a former “nice guy” who was denied, belittled, and severely hurt by countless amounts of women. these experiences have warped his perception of what women want in a man. and while his actions described at the beginning of this post may APPEAR to be purely offensive, they’re actually more defensive than anything. what we see is an emotional body-double, created to eliminate the likelihood of any rejection/pain the opposite sex may potentially cause him. so regardless of how horrific the outcome, paul can always tell himself “it’s okay. she didn’t reject the REAL me anyhow!” – this is a slippery slope (to say the least).

when paul finally lets his guard down, his girlfriend/wife will be presented with a whole new man. history shows women to love this today (reforming the bad boy) and hate it tomorrow. you can’t sell someone a corvette, and then give ‘em an escalade to drive home in. they’re both great automobiles, but they serve different purposes. the buyer of a sports car has different needs/desires than one purchasing an suv. at the end of the day, people just want what they paid for.

so once his relationship begins to suffer and AGAIN, the nice guy finishes last, he’ll equate it to his dropping the douchebaggery – and he’d be right. but that’s HIS FAULT – not her’s. she gave him what he signed up for – he did not. most people date a lot before finding their “type” to settle-down with. like it or not, women who willingly settle-down with douchebags are attracted to douchebags.

gentlemen, i hate to break it to you, but lots of people (women and men) get-off on being treated like dirt. but it’s a FACT that most women hate douchebags, just as most men hate bitches. ask 20 ladies who their ideal man is, and most will say brad pitt. brad is the farthest thing from a douchebag. do good-looks boost his ability to wet panties on command? lol, of course. but most assholes we’re referring to (paul included) are good-looking as well. so what’s the x-factor? CONFIDENCE – plain and simple. many nice guys mistake being confident with being an asshole, but (like corvettes and escalades) they are 2 different things. by the time paul finds this out, he’ll be too fucked up and old to do anything about it, but that doesn’t have to happen to you.

ladies, i suggest studying paul janka. he IS the quintessential douchebag, but there’s a good guy in there as well. by learning his true intentions and emotions, you’ll learn to see men like him for what they are – not what they appear to be. and since most of you don’t REALLY like dating assholes, spotting the fakes early on and adjusting things accordingly will help change the men around you for the better. by showing those you date that their negative qualities are a turn-off, more men will treat you (and other women) with the respect you deserve. it’s actually far deeper than that, but you get my point.

(a great way to condition the people in your life to feel comfortable being more positive around/with you, is to subtly “punish” the bad behavior, and “reward” good. for more on this topic, see my next post on “frame control”.)

when it’s all said and done, the majority of men and women – whether it appears so or not – have developed their personality traits based on the specific types of people they’re attracted to (personally or professionally). ignoring whats on the surface for what lies beneath, ensures that we get what we paid for more times than not.

“men are scared of a strong, confident vagina” -megan fox

thought this clip was interesting.  don’t have time to dig into it too much now, but i will at a later date.

food-porn: the luther burger

anybody seen this?  it’s called the “luther burger”.  it’s named after luther vandross, and is basically a bacon cheeseburger with a krispy kreme doughnut instead of a bun.  ooooooooooooh sweet, sweet luther burger!  this is the greatest food-porn i’ve seen since the elvis sandwich.  jason biggs should have fucked one of these instead of the pie, lol…

p.s.

for the vegetarians who feel left-out…

rules are shit

Most people want the “quick fix” answer to their problems.  Sorry, there isn’t one.  Show me one rule you have, and I’ll tell you 10 reasons why it’s a crock of shit.  LOL as a matter of fact, take anything I’ve said in the past, and I’ll show you 10 scenarios where that won’t work either.  That doesn’t mean our theories weren’t valid when we made them.  It just means there’s too many variables in life for ANYTHING to be 100% certain.  Well, there is 1 that is:

THE ONLY THING CERTAIN IS THAT NOTHING IS CERTAIN

What does peanut butter do?

What does a knife do?

What could you possibly do with mud and cow shit?

I can tell a guy “doing ‘this’ will get you ‘that’”, but guess what?  He’ll eventually come back with an incident where my advice “didn’t work”.  And you know what I’ll say after hearing the story?  “Oh, no wonder it didn’t work!  You didn’t do ‘this’ along with ‘that’.”  What might HELP performance “here” could HINDER it “there” – and vice versa.

There’s an exception to EVERY rule.  And more times than not, there’s THOUSANDS of exceptions.  So rather than get caught up in rules, start focusing on the exceptions.  Live in the gray areas, people.  Hollar!

nightclubs: recession-proof (unless you’re a moron)

I’m so sick of people telling me the nightclub business isn’t a secure business.  Why?  Because there’s a ton of morons out there getting involved in a business they know nothing about?  Because it’s a “recession”?  Don’t let the numbers fool you.

The vast majority of a nightclub’s revenue is generated through liquor sales.  Alcohol is one of the ONLY products to be considered “recession proof”.  It is a counter-cyclical asset, which is proven to defy economic trends.  In the United States; liquor sales in 2008 had reached its 9^th annual increase.

Skeptics credit retail stores as the real beneficiaries of the increase – and rightly so.  In Nielsen’s 2008 report, the average nightclub/lounge in Florida sold 43% less drinks since the dawn of the recession.  However, over 1/3 of Florida nightclubs and lounges experienced no overall impact whatsoever.  And since (in general) less than 33% of nightclubs will succeed (1 of 3) it appears the recession has had little to no affect on the success of the nightclub industry, and is indeed, RECESSION PROOF!

With average sales declining 43%, how does the industry stay afloat?  In a word: deflation.  The cost of owning/operating a nightclub in 2009 is 1/3 (or more) cheaper, than before the recession.  Real estate, marketing, entertainment, décor, and inventory – it’s all cheaper. Declining sales were offset by lower business costs.  And while many companies have suffered by selling at low-value, others have blossomed by the opportunity to open a business a fraction of it’s usual start-up.

Of the 29 companies known (by my research) to have operated nightclubs in Downtown Fort Lauderdale within the past 9 years, 18 of them had no prior experience in nightclub management, operations, and/or marketing – that’s a staggering 62%.

It’s been said that less than 33% of nightclubs will succeed.  But with 38% of Fort Lauderdale’s nightclubs being operated by experienced individuals, a mere 5% of failed nightclub ventures were controlled by professionals.  And so it is a FACT that…

95% OF FAILED NIGHTCLUBS IN DOWNTOWN FORT LAUDERDALE FROM 2000 – 2009 WERE CONTROLLED BY INDIVIDUALS WITH NO REAL EXPERIENCE IN NIGHTCLUB OPERATIONS.

Now do me a favor.  Find me ONE OTHER INDUSTRY that provides a 95% success-rate to anyone who knows their ass from a hole in the wall.  Go ahead…I’ll wait…

good girl/bad girl

a common misconception many  men have about women who are sexually free, is that they lack integrity. if a woman sleeps with a man “too soon” she is considered a “whore”.  if not, she’s a “good girl”. umm…hey guys, news flash. it takes two to tango. you’re both having sex, so what makes her a second class citizen, and you king of the castle?

women like sex.  sorry if that offends some of you guys.  and guess what?  many of them might even like it as much – or more – than you do!  shocking, i know! now don’t get me wrong.  i’m not saying that every woman sleeps around.  i’m merely saying that every woman would LIKE to sleep around.  the odds are that if a woman with an active social life is not having sex regularly, it’s because she:

1) was physically abused, and is scarred because of it. these women may need higher levels of comfort with a man, before having sex with him. this could take days, weeks, months, etc. and sometimes they STILL won’t be totally comfortable until they’ve been with the guy for a long time.  sadly, i have had experience with women who’s pasts were riddled with horrible events.  these women were either some of the most sexual beings i’ve ever met, or some of the most sexually reserved/shy – there was no middle ground.

2) is too scared to act on her true desires because the majority of society will punish her for it. society punishes sexually active women. so they’d rather refrain from acting on their desires and be considered a “good girl” than to act on them and be considered a “whore”.

other than that, trust me when i tell you that any girl with an active social life that does not fit in the categories above, is doing the  horizontal frog dance frequently  – even though most won’t admit to 90% of what they do/have done. they put up a front, since in this case, it’s PROVEN that honesty isn’t the best policy. HOWEVER…

if a woman meets a guy who embraces and respects sexually confident women, and will not throw her honesty back in her face, she will feel more comfortable owning her sexuality with this man, than with the average persecutor…woops…sorry…the average man.  which is why a woman might “hold off” on having sex with certain men “until the time is right”.  make a woman feel comfortable being herself around you, and the “right time” could be the first night you meet her.  make her feel that her honesty will work against her, and you’re not getting nookie until there’s at least a few dinners in the books.  the girl is the same person either way.  whether or not she decides to show you this now, or a couple months from now, is entirely up to you.

hey fellas, i feel your pain.  i thought the same things, passed the same judgement, made the same mistakes, and was wrong – just as you may be. when i became enlightened by the above knowledge, i was shocked, appauled, and confused.  my ego took some hits.  it sucks to realize that your entire belief system was flawed from the start.  and we all know how much guys hate being wrong, don’t we?  but c’mon guys, let’s think about this for a second.  we were WRONG in thinking that women don’t want to have as much sex as we do.  hmmm…i don’t know about you, but i can’t think of anything i’d rather be more wrong about

the death of a player

this guy claims to have been some sort of “big time player” before he met his wife, but by the looks of this video i’d say he’s full of shit. this girl’s game is beyond impressive! check out how her husband pridefully boasts about what great game his girl has, and how happy he is to have been whipped into shape by her. the guy even brags about how she was able to get him to grab an umbrella and walk her to A DATE WITH ANOTHER GUY in the rain. it’s like watching the loser of a fight, talk about what a great fighter the guy who beat his ass is. this is the most pathetic display of bitchassness i’ve seen on youtube. hats off to the woman though. i see you, player!

so many marriages, so little honesty

the majority of people i know are unfaithful. as a child i was taught that good people did not cheat. but growing up and seeing most of my friends and family members cheating on their boyfriends and girlfriends, posed a tough question. “if i consider my friends and family to be good people, and the majority of them are ‘cheaters’, does that mean the REAL definitions of good and bad are not what i was told they were?” this fucked with my head.

when it’s all said and done, i think most relationships are sabotaged when one or both individuals force themselves into a commitment before they should. many do so because they fear that good men/women are hard to find, and they need to rope in their prince/princess charming before anyone else does.

but just finding the right person isn’t enough. we need to feel fulfilled within ourselves, before we can enjoy being faithful to another person. notice i said “enjoy”. a person has to enjoy being in a committed relationship if they expect to stay committed. those who look at commitment like a “ball and chain” are the ones who got married before they were TRULY ready.

as far as relationships and marriage go, an individual must become content with his/her past sexual exploits in order to fully appreciate the pair bonding of marriage. some might experience contentment at an early age, while others might not feel satisfied until much later. some may never feel satisfied.

if you’re not satisfied with your achievements in your professional career, you shouldn’t retire until you are. and if you’re not satisfied with your sexual achievements, then you shouldn’t get married until you are. The desire to commit is less reliant on the person you’re marrying, and more about the life you’ve lived before marriage.

i fought t-mobile and won!

so i switched services with t-mobile a few weeks ago. i was told by the salesman that i had 2 phones with unlimited minutes, blackberry service, text, internet, and insurance, for under $200 a month. i was happy as shit. it turns out that the salesman fucked up, and quoted me for the wrong plan. the plan i THOUGHT i was getting, actually costs a bit under $300 a month or some crazy shit. oh, and internet wasn’t included in my new plan either.

so i bitched, and bitched, and bitched some more, and then threatened to cancel my account. after going back and forth with about 4 different associates, i finally won the war! as it stands right now, my phone plan is $168 (tax included) per month with everything mentioned above for 2 phones/lines. AND, they’re giving me a rebate for my troubles, so my first month’s bill will only be $116! sometimes it pays to whine like a bitch

personality strikes again!

so i have this chick friend. she’s not like a bff or anything, but i talk to her a few times a month and we shoot the shit, and that’s about it. she’s not really my type. she isn’t ugly or anything, she just doesn’t have the features i normally go for in a woman. i’ve never been even remotely sexual with her, and i never wanted to be either.

the other day i was talking to her and we had an AMAZING conversation. she has one of the best personalities out of any chick i’ve ever met. i mean, this girl is just a pure fuckin’ joy to talk with, and her perspective on life is always interesting. she’s always “on”, and never fails to say the right thing, crack the right joke, or give the right advice.

so a few minutes ago i was scanning facebook and started looking at her pics. but here’s the weird thing; i found myself looking at her photos, TRYING to convince myself that she was attractive, and that i might have been “wrong” for thinking she wasn’t. i was consciously attempting to abandon my perception of what physical beauty is, because her personality is so damn cool, that her looks didn’t matter any more. in short, i was attempting to convince myself that i was wrong for not wanting to date her.

i’m obviously not going to take it there – because i’ve gotten my knowledge of self running like a well-oiled machine, and i can refrain from falling into traps like these – but chances are that if this was a few years ago, it may have been another story. and keep in mind that i am different than most people. in the last few years i’ve worked extremely hard at learning to control my emotions, thoughts, ego, etc. most people are not (nor do they care to be) as consciously aware of certain things that i might pick up on. most people just don’t have the strength within to stop themselves or even come to grips with their true emotions in situations like these.

now let’s switch our roles for a second. make me the unattractive guy with a great personality, and her the hot chick who fell into the personality trap like i did in the story above. this should provide a clear understanding to anyone who feels they’re unattractive and will never be able to get a hot girl/guy to date them, that this is just not the case. i kinda always thought that personality was a big deal, but i didn’t TRULY realize just how big until today.